Do you say you care or do you really care?

How do you show someone you really care? Is it all about doing nice things for the person, ask how are you, talk to the person, or is it more than that? You wish to care, but you don't know how, because people receive things differently. When you care, they try evaluating your motives. When you care, they feel you are invading their privacy. Sometimes, when you care, they just reject. And all you can do is to remain behind in the background, doing small little care acts for that person. But you never know, the person may just turn around and bite you saying that you don't really care. And you feel hurt, a knife being thrown at you. You do not know what to do. To give up or to keep caring the little way you did without defending yourself, or should you just yell at that person telling that person all you have been doing for that person which that person did not know. But your heart does not allow you to do that. Why? Because you just can't stop caring for that person. If you try to stay away from the person because you feel hurt, you struggle, and ultimately you realise you just simply can't. Why? Because deep down you still care for the person. You will just be unsure how to react, how to care for the person. But the heart will always remind you how much you really care for that person. When you see that person, you really want to help and maybe just be there for that person, although you may refrain yourself because you are still at a lost. When you care, it takes a lot of effort to really stop caring. No one will know but you. Everyone may say you don't care, but only you know whether deep down, where no one can see, you really care.

--- Fern --

18:33 8May08

was talking a little on the topic of people saying they care, and people who actually cared. I wanted to voice my opinion of that, but dint get enough chance to say everything out before we switched topic. When i got home, went to 'hear' what's Fern's view of this topic. Makes lots of sense to me. I think Fern's writings are interesting.